Central Baptist Church
Friday, September 25, 2020

Evening Worship Sermon

 

HONOR PARENTS

Exodus 20:12

II Samuel 15:7-14

 

Honor for parents is seen in our words and actions.

 

          Family relationships can be hard.  Difficulties often occur within families - wouldn't it be great if that did not happen - but they do occur.

          God calls us to rise above these difficulties when they do occur - particularly in relationship to our parents.  Regardless of how we might feel about our parents at any given moment, God calls for us to treat them with the honor He says they deserve :

 

Exodus 20:12 -  "Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee."

 

          One of the foundational commands related to others was the importance of honoring parents.  God warned them and us, that the consequences of disobeying this command would result in heartache and trouble.  These consequences are clearly seen in King David's family, when his son Absalom rebelled against him.

 

          Did your parents ever say to you as you were leaving the house, "Remember, your last name is ___________."

 

          Obviously I knew my name, they didn't need to remind me.

          They were reminding me that my name represented something much bigger than just me.  Our family name stood for honesty, integrity, morality, and dignity.

in the community, and my parents didn't want me to do anything to jeopardize the testimony of that name.


          I wanted to honor the name they had given me.

 

Exodus 20:12 -  "Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee."

 

          This is the first commandment that emphasizes how people should relate to one another.

 

          God designed the family as the foundational unit in society and He planned for parents to help children grow to maturity.

          Children also have a God-given obligation to honor the parents God has placed in their lives.

 

          It is noteworthy that the command related to parents comes after the commands related to God.

 

          Ill. -  "I don't mind being third."

                -   God first, parents second, and I don't mind being third. In a very real sense, parents exemplify God to their children.

                -  Parents give life to their children through procreation just as God gives life to us through salvation.

                -  Parents are to provide for and protect their children as well as to love and care for them.

                -  Parents are to instruct, discipline, and guide their children to adulthood.

                -  Then an even greater responsibility of the parent relates to the spiritual instruction of the children.

 

    
          "Honor" -  "To be heavy" and it carries the meaning of :

weight

honor

majesty                To honor parents means to give them the respect they deserve by :          honoring them

                             caring for them

          To truly honor our parents we must demonstrate it by the way we :

speak to them

speak about them                  and how we act toward them.

 

          This command doesn't end when we reach adulthood and we are no longer dependent upon them.

          We honor our parents when we continue to be involved in their lives, not only as we give them our :       attention

                                                                   time

                                                                   love                     but also as we :

seek their wisdom

listen to them

remain patient with them

 

          It can be hard for some people to feel their parents are worthy of respect.  But no matter how we may feel about them at a particular time, God calls us to always treat our parents with the honor He says they deserve.

 

          While the fifth commandment was the first that included a promise, obedience to all of God's commands was expected.

 

          God noted in Ezekiel one of the reasons the nation was destroyed and the people were taken captive to a foreign land was because they treated their parents "with contempt."

 

 

 

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Ezekiel 22:7,15 -  "In thee have they set light by father and mother:

          15  And I will scatter thee among the heathen, and disperse thee in the countries, and will consume thy filthiness out of thee."

 

II Samuel 15:7-12 -  "And it came to pass after forty years, that       Absalom said unto the king, I pray thee, let me go and pay my vow,      which I have vowed unto the LORD, in Hebron.

          8  For thy servant vowed a vow while I abode at Geshur in Syria,     saying, If the LORD shall bring me again indeed to Jerusalem,   then I will serve the LORD.

          9  And the king said unto him, Go in peace. So he arose, and went   to Hebron.

          10  But Absalom sent spies throughout all the tribes of Israel,           saying, As soon as ye hear the sound of the trumpet, then ye shall    say, Absalom reigneth in Hebron.

          11  And with Absalom went two hundred men out of Jerusalem,        that were called; and they went in their simplicity, and they knew   not any thing.

          12  And Absalom sent for Ahithophel the Gilonite, David's      counsellor, from his city, even from Giloh, while he offered   sacrifices. And the conspiracy was strong; for the people increased   continually with Absalom."

 

          Absalom was David's third son.  Now David was far from a perfect husband or an upstanding father.  His sins contributed to the wrong behavior of his sons, particularly Absalom.

 

          David's sin with Bathsheba was not just a one-night stand.  It was a lifetime habit that left a legacy of destruction among the members of his own family.

          What ever David might have did, that did not excuse the behavior of Absalom.  Absalom was still responsible for his own behavior.

 

 

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          I wonder if we have ever been guilty of blaming someone else for what we did?

_________________

          Absalom was still responsible for honoring David as both his :        

father

king            We are still responsible for honoring our parents!

 

          Rather than honoring his father David, Absalom chose to honor himself at the expense of his father.  Absalom's actions show us the tragic consequences of failing to show honor with integrity to our parents.

 

          Absalom's actions brought great adversity home to the nation of Israel and even his own death.

 

          With pious-sounding words, Absalom explained to David that he had vowed to worship the Lord in Hebron if God would bring him back to Jerusalem - thus David may not have had any concerns about Absalom going there.

          David gave his permission, speaking the last three words he would ever say to Absalom, "Go in peace."

 

          Absalom had made the strategic move of inviting 200 men from Jerusalem to accompany him to Hebron.  Apparently these men knew nothing of Absalom's plot.  While they did not support the revolt - once at Hebron they were in a no-win situation - they could not help David, and they would have been killed if they resisted Absalom.

 

          Absalom sent for Ahithophel, who was an advisor of David, and the grandfather of Bathsheba.  Why he joined allegiance with Absalom is not indicated but could it have been what David did to Bathsheba?

          Could he have been secretely looking for a way to avenge what David had done?  Here was the perfect answer to his search and he wasn't the only person to join the insurgance.

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II Samuel 15:12 -  "And Absalom sent for Ahithophel the Gilonite, David's counsellor, from his city, even from Giloh, while he offered       sacrifices. And the conspiracy was strong; for the people increased   continually with Absalom."

 

          Can't you see the mob mentality at work today, people jumping on the band-wagon?

 

II samuel 15:13-14 -  "And there came a messenger to David, saying,       The hearts of the men of Israel are after Absalom.

          14  And David said unto all his servants that were with him at          Jerusalem, Arise, and let us flee; for we shall not else escape from    Absalom: make speed to depart, lest he overtake us suddenly, and        bring evil upon us, and smite the city with the edge of the sword."

 

          Had this been an election, it would have meant that David would have to step down and let Absalom take the office he won by the vote of the people.

          Understand this, it was different then that it is today.  Defeat in that culture meant death.  David know Absalom wouldn't spare his life just because he was his father.

          Absalom had no concern for his father's welfare, only his own!

 

          Honoring parents means more than just showing them respect - it also involves seeking their welfare.  Absalom did neither as he continued his campaign to usurp the throne of Israel from his father.

 

          Folks, God doesn't hold kindly to dishonor!

 

II Kings 2:23-24 -  "And he (Elisha) went up from thence unto Bethel:     and as he was going up by the way, there came forth little children        out of the city, and mocked him, and said unto him, Go up, thou     bald head; go up, thou bald head.

 

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          24  And he turned back, and looked on them, and cursed them in      the name of the LORD. And there came forth two she bears out of      the wood, and tare forty and two children of them."

 

          Now these were not little children being irresponsible.  These were older teens or early twenties who were in effect, cursing God's prophet, and their disrespect brought them death.

 

          How many young folks are dying :         spiritually

                                                                             emotionally

                                                                             relationally

in our culture today because they never learned the importance of honor, and it's costing them their lives.

          Might I add here also, a lot of older folks need to learn this lesson also!

 

          Absalom's rebellious pursuit to dethrone his father led to his death:

 

II Samuel 18:14-15 -  "And Absalom met the servants of David. And         Absalom rode upon a mule, and the mule went under the thick      boughs of a great oak, and his head caught hold of the oak, and he      was taken up between the heaven and the earth; and the mule that       was under him went away.

          10  And a certain man saw it, and told Joab, and said, Behold, I      saw Absalom hanged in an oak.

          11  And Joab said unto the man that told him, And, behold, thou     sawest him, and why didst thou not smite him there to the ground?    and I would have given thee ten shekels of silver, and a girdle.

          12  And the man said unto Joab, Though I should receive a     thousand shekels of silver in mine hand, yet would I not put forth          mine hand against the king's son: for in our hearing the king   charged thee and Abishai and Ittai, saying, Beware that none           touch the young man Absalom.

 

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          13  Otherwise I should have wrought falsehood against mine own   life: for there is no matter hid from the king, and thou thyself       wouldest have set thyself against me.

          14  Then said Joab, I may not tarry thus with thee. And he took        three darts in his hand, and thrust them through the heart of       Absalom, while he was yet alive in the midst of the oak.

          15  And ten young men that bare Joab's armour compassed about   and smote Absalom, and slew him."

 

          Dishonor has a way of recycling itself throughout our relationships, remember the saying, "What goes around, comes around!"

 

          Let's close with this - what does honoring our parents mean when we are adults :

-  spend time with them

-  ask for their advice

-  be a good listener

-  pray for them and with them

-  speak well of them in public - If I ever hear you call them :  

   "Old man"       

   "Old woman"            you might not like it but I will correct you - even  

   in public.

-  express your gratitude

-  listen to their stories

-  tell them your stories